I've been picking BFF and Princess up after school since they started middle school in the fall. They usually wave enthusiastically as soon as they see my car in the (long) pick up line and then get in the car happily sharing the latest gossip with me.
Well, yesterday I didn't see them as I worked my way through the line. By the time I got to the front Princess was in the usual spot waiting for me by herself. I asked if BFF went home sick when she opened the car door. She pointed behind her. BFF was slowly making her way to the car.
I said "hi" to BFF when she got in. Silence. I asked her what was wrong. Silence.
I asked Princess if she knew what was wrong with BFF. She said she really didn't understand what was going on with her. I asked if they had a fight. Princess said she didn't think so.
I asked BFF if she was upset with Princess. Silence.
Princess explained that she was late to meet BFF at their usual spot after their last class, so BFF went to parent pickup without her (which is exactly what they are supposed to do.) When Princess got there, she tried to explain why she was late and BFF told her, "I don't want to hear it! I don't want to hear it!" then got mad when Princess told her anyways.
I asked BFF if that was true. Silence.
I got annoyed and told Princess that I would be really disappointed if she ever ignored an adult who was talking to her like that. (I later regretted it. I try so hard not to shame Princess, so I shouldn't throw it on BFF either.)
We dropped BFF off at her house and came home to find a Facebook message from her mom already waiting for me.
BFF went inside and immediately called her mom to confess that she was "rude and disrespectful" to me and was very sorry about it. I guess she was afraid I was going to call her mom, so she wanted to beat me to the punch!
Her mom was mortified and apologized profusely. I was like, "Do you remember what I went through with my kid Monday morning? The silent treatment from yours is not the end of the world!"
We compared stories of what the girls said happened before I picked them up. They seemed the same, except BFF said Princess called her dumb. I asked Princess about it. She said she didn't call BFF any names and decided on her own to call her and clear the air.
I could hear her side of the phone conversation. She said, "Your mom told my mom you think I called you a name. I didn't, but I'm sorry if you thought you heard something that hurt your feelings. I didn't mean to upset you."
BFF apologized as well. She aid she got upset because she was being sarcastic when she said "I don't want to hear it" and got mad when Princess took it seriously and got mad at her.
Then she asked to talk to me. She apologized and said she knew it was very rude and I didn't deserve to be treated like that. I accepted her apology and thanked her.
Then she asked me to please message her mom on Facebook because she might not believe her that she apologized. LOL!
Then the girls started plotting to have a sleepover. BFF has a new bed, so she wanted to do it at her house. Her mom said Princess could come over and play for a while and she'd decide about a sleepover if they got along.
I let Princess go over, even though her mom wasn't going to be home for another two hours. This is the longest she's been without adult supervision by far. We're plugging away on operation "let her be 12."
The girls did great and BFF's mom agreed to the sleepover. They did so well that BFF's mom invited Princess to spend the day running errands with them to keep BFF company.
Those silly girls. They can be the other's fiercest champion and worst enemy all within a span of half an hour.
So an unexpected kid-free 24 hours was given to me!
And how have I used it? Catching up on work.
Monday got me so stressed out that I haven't been able to accomplish much.
I'm getting myself together, though. I'm fueled by diet pepsi right now, but plan on going to the grocery store later to stock up on healthy foods. I'm also going to try to get an early sleep tonight because I was up way too late working last night.
Oh, and I'm also going to make time to tap today. Princess and I both tapped yesterday and it made a big difference in anxiety for both of us. (I love you, Lisa!)